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The Real Reason All My Mommy Friends Have Sons? They Can’t Give Me Their Hand-Me-Downs

Mom Jeanine
July 21, 2011


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I know I am probably going to come across as spoiled, selfish, ungrateful, etc. But that’s just a risk I’m willing to take because I think this has to be said: I don’t want your hand-me-downs!

And there’s a good chance the mom you’re giving them to now doesn’t really want them either. I know you spent a lot of time (and money!) picking out those adorable onesies and dresses and what-not for your baby–I get that. But that isn’t reason enough to try to push your kid’s worn clothes onto me. I know, firsthand, that kids pass gas, pee, poop and puke on their clothing and the idea of my daughter wearing something your daughter farted in just plain grosses me out.

Deep down, you probably hate hand-me-downs, too (unless you’re BFF with Katie Holmes or Jessica Alba, that is). In theory, it should be admirable to try to save another mom some cash by offering clothes your child no longer wears. But for a lot of moms–even moms on a budget–shopping for your kids is actually kind of fun. And for me, it’s personal. I love buying things I think will look adorable on my daughter or that she points out in a store. In a bizarre, superficial way, it makes me feel like a good mom.

So instead of trying to hawk your old baby clothes on me, why not take them to your local salvation army instead? Or better yet, check out It’s this amazing new online marketplace where moms can exchange used kids’ clothing.

What do you think? Do you like receiving hand-me-downs from other moms or do you wish they’d stop trying to give them to you? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • ash
    July 21, 2011

  • Wow – I couldn’t disagree more….I love handmedowns (I have two boys so send any and all to me!!). I love shopping for them also but I feel like I can splurge more on them when it is something adorable yet impractical since I save by using handmedowns as well. Beyond clothing – most all our baby gear was passed on to me and I”ll pass it on to someone else. If you are worried about pee, poo or spit up, sounds like you have laundry detergent issues (or just wear your clothes once and pitch).

  • LIndi
    July 21, 2011

  • I think hand me downs can be a great thing. I had a ton of never worn baby clothes that I passed on to someone who really appreciated them. I would never pass on spit up on onesies. Now that my son is 4, sometimes only can wear a pair of blue jeans for 3 months before he out grows them, I would love some hand me downs.

    You are staying true form to your past blog posts in sounding like a snob. Now I can just add the word ungrateful!

  • Sheila
    July 21, 2011

  • I LOVE getting hand-me-downs! And, I LOVE shopping for my son. But I get pretty cool clothes from the parents I know. They shop for their kids clothes at the same places I do, so it works out perfectly for us! :)

  • Elizabeth Bubel
    July 21, 2011

  • WOW really. Reading this made me sick to my stomach. I for one ma not a person who says no to hand me downs for 2 reasons 1) unlike you i dont have the money to go to the store and by my kids what ever they want, and i really would not want to teach my children to be superficial. 2) kids grow so fast so if you buy them new clothes every time they need it then you will spend way to much money. you talk about farting in clothes and throw up well duh thats what washing is for. right now you sound like some snobby stuck up person i would be so happy to get those hand me downs and not have to pay for it.

  • Paula
    July 21, 2011

  • Really? I’m not sure what prompted you to write this article but you do come across as a bit ungrateful and snobbish.

    I love hand-me-downs. My friends and I trade things around all the time. We think of it as another way to recycle and be green. Certain clothing items such as jeans are so generic anyways, why spend money buying them if you can get them for free? You do realize that just because you buy the clothes new, it doesn’t mean that they were never farted on. People try things on or buy then return clothing.

    PS. I know this will horrify you but I also love shopping yard sales and thrift stores for clothing for myself and kids.

  • Cherri
    July 21, 2011

  • Let me guess, this author must be the same one from a couple of weeks ago who hates dogs and can’t possibly understand how people can love a dog. Now she hates when people are trying to save money, save her money and recycle clothing. Unbelievable! Most kids grow so fast that they only get to wear their clothing a few times before they outgrow them. Lucky you that you can afford to replenish entire wardrobes every few months with brand new clothes. Many of us cannot. You are very cranky and maybe shouldn’t be writing here. Your posts are always so negative and don’t seem to offer any insights worth reading. Just your personal negative rants. I don’t need to spend my time reading your cranky complaints. Yes, you are bizarre and superficial. I think I’m going to unsubscribe now.

  • Lori
    July 21, 2011

  • I find this post to be bizarre. I can understand being annoyed at getting too many hand me downs and getting clothes in poor condition but hating the whole idea of it? In this difficult economy most families I know are grateful for hand me downs, I know I am. Anything I don’t want or need I pass on or donate. As for being grossed out that your daughter might wear something mine farted in? That is what washing machines are for. I find your point of view to be ridiculous.

  • MK
    July 21, 2011

  • I totally agree with the author! I hate hand me downs, especially the funky old crap that people are just trying to get rid of. My baby is not a way for you to clean out your basement. My sister in law is constantly trying to give us stuff (that my husband will say yes to without really thinking about it), her kids are 10 and 13! So no, I don’t want your car seat that’s 13 years old, or the baseball hats that won’t fit my son for 6 years. I also don’t want the gigantic toys that you suckered my husband into taking, that are now taking up most of my basement–and he can’t use for 3 years! I am constantly in the position of having to defend why I don’t want baby items that are so old they’re a safety concern–such as a carseat or pack n play, it’s very frustrating!

  • Lisa
    July 21, 2011

  • I love gently used, high quality hand me downs. I loved getting designer dresses, winter coats and shoes that were worn once or twice and handed down. I think that people should ask before they give hand me downs and carefully edit what they give so they are not giving anything that has been used a lot or has stains, etc…

  • Amy
    July 21, 2011

  • This may shock you, but Katie Holmes and Jessica Alba’s children fart, too.
    I feel bad for your friend. She probably thinks she is helping you out. She should sell them on Craigslist and keep the money for herself, instead of trying to bless an ungrateful person, such as yourself!

  • Amy
    July 21, 2011

  • You may have lots of comments and traffic to your site from this article but was it worth upsetting your loyal readers. For some, hand me downs are the only option. What is the famous saying, “you don’t get rich spending money!”

  • Judy Clark Bradley
    July 21, 2011

  • I would never pass on clothes that I would not use – if they fit! I only pass on clothes that are in good condition and look nice! And I always loved getting clothes for my little ones that way. But one can always say no. My oldest son used to have a thing against wearing “others” clothes, but once when I offered him jeans from a friend and he said no, he saw his brother wearing the jeans and asked why I hadn’t bought him “new” jeans. I told him those were the very jeans he had turned down. Personally, I think it is foolish not to use hand me downs or garage sales items. Everything is too expensive now and saving money on anything we purchase is a wise move. By the way, washing clothes does remove “fart” smell!!!

  • Judy Clark Bradley
    July 21, 2011

  • Sorry, one more thing. By saving money using those hand me downs or garage sale items, means that when the special occasion arises and a clothing item is desired that normally we could or would not get, I am more likely to find a way to get it, like the expensive jacket my son had wanted. I kept an eye on it and bought it on sale, but still couldn’t, wouldn’t, have without having saved on the majority of clothing purchases. I buy all my own clothes at garage sales or thrift shops. I have never cared for “style” or fashion – why should I let someone else dictate what I should like or wear! Although anymore we can see “styles” from all eras being worn any place we go.

  • Liz
    July 21, 2011

  • Soooo refreshing to hear from some SENSIBLE moms in response to a ridiculous rant about why it’s ok to be snobbish (arrogant!) & selfish, indulgent & ignorant, insensitive & ungrateful! It’s a shame these life attitudes are being passed on to your daughter…. This is what the people she comes in contact with will have to endure!
    You need to get over yourself and get the bigger picture!
    How about focusing more on positive things that are happening with moms ( not just celeb moms), especially if your intent is to truly help moms! We could all use a lot less tabloid & a lot more genuine encouragement!

  • Liz D
    July 21, 2011

  • Hope that you are never in a situation where all you can “AFFORD” are hand me downs. Wouldn’t want your kids to go clothing-less. God forbid you wash them. I hope that no one gives you anything again.

  • hidaya
    July 21, 2011

  • i have a thought. how about saving the money you’d spend on unnecessary clothes and deposit that cash into an account for your child… at the end of the year, you should have several hundred dollars. try this for 18 years and watch your child’s eyes light up at the thought of how much money they have for college…. or a “used” car [oh no, would she drive a used car?] at 18, your child should be forever grateful for those years of wise savings and “used” clothing.

    saved dollars add up…$$$…$$$…$$$

  • Kathy
    July 21, 2011

  • wow, you must be a joy to be around…arrogant, selfish and snobby….do you judge other peoples children by the lables on their clothing too??

  • Judith
    July 21, 2011

  • Add me to the grateful who appreciate hand me downs

  • Helen Williams Chaffins
    July 21, 2011

  • I LOVE hand me downs. Nothing brightens my day more than someone handing me a trash bag full of clothes I can go through. Even if I only find one thing that I want to keep it’s worth it to me. I guess what I really love besides the free stuff is hunting through it you never know what’s going to be in there it’s like finding treasure.

  • Lou
    July 21, 2011

  • You should gratefully accept the clothes and if you don’t like them, give them to CHARITY! There are so many needy kids who would love the clothes. I for one love the clothes my friends give me. They ‘hand me down’ Tea Collection, Zutano, Hanna Anderson, etc. And my daughter always gets compliments on how cute she looks! : )

  • Sarah
    July 21, 2011

  • It seems like a post written mostly to promote the site Honestly, I love some hand-me-downs, and the ones that don’t suit us just get passed along to someone else. I love shopping for my kids, but its always nice to have an extra pair of jeans or three that we didn’t have to pay for and can play hard in!

  • April
    July 21, 2011

  • So if Katie Holmes or Jessica Alba was your BFF you would take the clothes? I hope you know this article makes you sound like a snobby little B!%#$ Me and my husband both make good money and yes I still use hand-me-downs and LOVE them. Everyone I know is greatful for hand-me-downs, most kids grow out of clothes so fast I think my daughter only wears an outfit maybe 3 time before it gets too short or small.

  • Helen Williams Chaffins
    July 21, 2011

  • After reading the comments I do agree with some of the readers that I have no use for the 13 year old car seats or clothes that are so worn out/stained that no one could use the (both of which I have had thrust on me at one time or another) but for the most part all the hand me downs people give me are perfectly acceptable items and I think this is the same for most people.

  • Brenda Lee Hess
    July 21, 2011

  • Yep, I would say Ungrateful, snobbish, superficial, and just plain someone I (and many moms in the real world!) would not even want to associate with! I have been a mom for 23 yrs, with children ranging in age from 2 up to 23., and have always loved getting clean gently worn hand me down from friends and family. Sure, we shop for clothing for our children, but WHAT a wonderful boost to your child’t wardrobe when someone THOUGHTFULLY shares the hand me downs with you! Seriously–you wouldn’t allow your daughter to wear clothing that another child farted in?? SERIOUSLY?? I am sure every restaurant seat, cab seat, park bench has been farted on once or twice, not to mention the desks in school. What the hell kind of world do you live in where even the “moms on a budget” would turn their noses up at hand me downs?? This article makes absolutely NO sense–SO many magazine (online and paper) articles have PUSHED the movement to reduce REUSE and recycle items (INCLUDING children’s clothing!). Why would you write an article talking about hoe heinous the thought is that your princess might actually wear something that someone else once peed in, pooped on, farted on, or puked on?? Unless of course it would happen to be Jessica Alba’s or Katie Holmes’ child’s hand me downs, because as we all know, celebrity children NEVER pee, poop, puke OR fart. This article is obnoxious, and appears like it was written by a selfish teenager! And I say, HOW THE HELL can you disparage hand me downs in one sentence, and push people to the Thred Up site (Hello–HAND ME DOWNS are traded there!!!). Just a tidbit of information here–you can always tell the person who is trying to give you hand me downs no, you can’t use them, but why the hell disparage them???? Do you honestly not KNOW that laundry detergent and bleach were invented EONS ago, and that farts (among other things!) wash out most of the time when given the proper attention.? Oh…I forgot–you also come off as an elitist pig. You make absolutely NO sense in this article–it appears as if you were “trying” to write with a witty slant, but let me tell you, honey, it is anything BUT. Good luck in your fart,puke,pee, and poop free life–and oh, by the way—with your attitudes, THANK YOU ahead of time for raising yet another self entitled, egotistical, selfish, superficial princess…just what we need more of. Oh…and remember–ignorance is NOT bliss—ignorance is IGNORANCE.

  • Leza
    July 21, 2011

  • Wow you seriously need help, you are one of the most ignorant people I have ever seen and now I know you are raising your kids to be this way great job there “mom”

  • Melissa
    July 21, 2011

  • I wonder how Thredup feels about you advertising their site in a blog post that was written with such poor taste.

  • Traci King
    July 21, 2011

  • While you are entitled to your opinion, this type of attitude is just plain wrong! If you don’t like hand me downs from someone simply say no thank you to the giver. I’m sure they think they are doing a good deed. You come across as an immature, self entitled person, and how do you think your child is going to turn out then? You better hope you don’t ever fall on hard times, because I assure you it’s gonna be a really hard fall for you!

  • carrie
    July 21, 2011

  • Well, aren’t you just a precious princess…

  • Jessica
    July 21, 2011

  • “In a bizarre, superficial way, it makes me feel like a good mom.”
    If buying brand name clothes validates your experience as a mom your sad and empty. Being a good mom has nothing to do with the new brand label on your kids back.

  • Brenda Lee Hess
    July 21, 2011

  • Oh…and by the way, in this world, you get out what you put in, so when you write this tripe and put it out there for all to see, the only thing you can expect to receive back is people facepalming, shaking their head, and laughing at your unbelievable lack of a grasp of what *REAL* moms in this country deal with.

  • Heather M
    July 21, 2011

  • I’m on both sides on this one. I for one do not like hand me downs for my daughter. Most of the stuff I get is worn out and I don’t like that. I find deals at Target, Kohl’s and JCPenney for $2 a piece, same price as Salvation Army if not cheaper. I’ve gotten my daughter Levi’s before for $2.80 at JCP. It’s doable.
    I do not spend hundreds of dollars on her every year. I spend about $80 per season. So about $160 a year (if that) Again I would spend that at Salvation Army so for me it’s more sensible to shop at regular brand new stores. And I don’t have friends who have girls my daughter’s age anyway for the free hand me downs so that is out. But to be honest, I’d probably not take them.

    There was a time in the beginning of my daughter’s life when I went to a pregnancy compassion center and got free clothes. We needed them then and if God forbid something happened I’d probably get them again. But for now ALL new works for us!

  • TR
    July 21, 2011

  • i really dislike this post and you do come off selfish and snobbish. i hope you don’t write another post for momfinds- your post is contradictory for what i typically find useful on this site.

  • kelly
    July 21, 2011

  • I love hand me downs…or finding a great deal at a yard sale. There is this new thing…called a wash machine, you can wash those clothes that possibly had poop or pee on them…sheesh.

  • Lori Z.
    July 21, 2011

  • The only reason I would say that hand me downs aren’t a good thing is when my kid is wearing a hand-me-down that cause the hand-me-downer, usually the mom, to tear up with a long story about how her kid took some first step or something in that outfit. Otherwise, what a great way to get extra mileage for your money, not to mention that fact that my kids put their clothes through the ringer so I can splurge on coats and sweaters while they wear out the shirts that go under them.

  • Mom Jeanine
    July 21, 2011

  • Wow. I am surprised so many moms feel so strongly about hand-me-downs. While I do still maintain my position that I’d rather not receive someone else’s used, worn clothing, I’d like to clarify a few things. 1. I am not wealthy. I’m actually a single mom raising a toddler on my own in NYC. 2. I do love shopping for my daughter, but I am not blowing her college fund on clothes. 3. I do not, nor have I ever, flat out refused someone’s hand-me-downs. If I’m given something I don’t find suitable for my daughter–which in my experience has been 95% of the hand-me-downs I’ve gotten–I politely accept them and then later donate them to Goodwill.

    I am well aware that not all moms are able to splurge on clothes for their children. I can’t. I live on a budget. But the truth is, not all of your child’s old clothes are fit to be handed down and just because I don’t have a ton of money doesn’t mean I want your kid’s old stuff.

    Let’s be clear, I am not passing judgment on moms who accept hand-me-downs. My daughter has worn hand-me-downs. In general, however, I choose to buy my daughter new clothes not because I think there is anything wrong with accepting hand-me-downs, but because I rarely ever get used items that I think are suitable for my child. I have and will continue to teach my little girl that she doesn’t have to settle. She shouldn’t settle for a so-so education, or a so-so living environment, and no, she shouldn’t have to settle for so-so hand-me-downs just because someone found it in the goodness of their heart to donate crap–because most of what we’ve gotten is crap–they don’t want anymore.

  • Jo-Lynn
    July 21, 2011

  • I think some of you “real moms” are being way harsh. So she doesn’t like hand-me-downs, BIG DEAL! How does that make her ignorant? Self-entitled? Selfish? Immature? Superficial?!? Quit making moral calls based on someone’s desire to buy new stuff for her child!

    What I gather from most of your posts is that the same people quick to pass judgment on a mom who loves shopping for her child are probably raising your children to be just as judgmental and ignorant as you are. She never judged anyone for accepting hand-me-downs. She just stated that she doesn’t like them.

    Let’s be honest, a good amount of folks who pawn the stuff their kids have out grown don’t take time out to sort through it all, they just want to get rid of the stuff! I personally despise those folks! I certainly appreciate a friend trying to save me a buck, but don’t make me your recycling program either.

    Truth be told, if I could afford to buy everything brand new, I certainly would and I have a sneaking suspicion i’m not the only one who feels this way. Don’t mask your insecurities about not being able to afford new clothes by coming down on a woman who can. For all we know, she shops at Target and Walmart too! New clothes doesn’t mean “brand name” clothes.

    I personally love hand me downs, but I admit, it’s frustrating to receive a box of used clothes/toys and only 25% of it is fit for my child, leaving me stuck with figuring out a way to get rid of the unusable 75%.

    She didn’t say BURN the hand-me-downs, she suggested they be taken to the local salvation army, or that be used. To me, it seems like the advice of an honest mom who has apparently received a bunch of crappy hand-me-downs!

  • c. flanigan
    July 21, 2011

  • You are definitely coming across as you describe yourself in your first sentence. And , just so you know…Katie Holmes and Jessica Alba’s kids pee and poop the same way all kids do.

  • Shari
    July 21, 2011

  • I don’t like hand me downs. Come on people. Would YOU Moms out there being so critical wear a pair of hand me down underwear from someone “because you washed it” and therefore it should be clean? I don’t think so. What is the difference with your children? I AM one of the fortunate ones that can buy all new clothes for my son (AND I’m a single Mom raising him on my own). New clothes are NOT that expensive and I ENJOY buying them for him. On the other hand, I DO give my clothes to friends who have mentioned to me that they would LIKE to have them. They are good, high quality designer brand clothes and there are Moms out there that DO appreciate them and I’m totally open to passing them along. For me though, nothing but the best for my son.

  • Colette Chadwick
    July 21, 2011

  • I had to read the article more than once because I thought it was a joke @ first. In the real world hand me downs are a way of life & can hold fond memories. Ex: when my parents 1st grandchild (a boy) was born in 1966 my dad bought him a pair of Liberty overalls;betwee n 1966 & 1987 when their last grandchild (a girl) was born there were more kids born into our family for a grand total of 8. 5 boys & 3 girls all wore same overalls that never seemed to develop a hole anywhere. Those kids are grown now & starting their families. They keep asking me if I have found the overalls. They want them for their children. I’m still looking. UPDATE: I am a recently early retiree(56) w/8 grandkids, 5 biological, 3 from my heart. I have a little more money now to spend than when my kids were babies and I joined this site thinking maybe I would make a few purchases for them now and again. I am beginning to think I made a BIG MISTAKE!! BTW the baby girl I mentioned above that was the last to wear the overalls, just made me a very happy NANA. It seems #9 is on the way. My baby is having her 1st baby. Stay with or go?? I will have to think about it.

  • Stephanie Hodges
    July 22, 2011

  • I love hand me downs. Less money for me to spend on clothes or items onto more important things like gas, doctor bills, food on the table or splurging for pizza family night.

    Clothes a person (kid or adult) tries on in the stores are likely to be tried on before. Some people, as I know a few, dislike underwear. So, it is likely any pants, shorts or bathing suits was worn by a pantyless or sweaty person in this type of weather. That gross’s me out, but that is what bleach or laundry soap is for. Even wash it twice if that makes a person feel better.

    Either way. Kids will fart. Kids will have potty accients. Kids will be in the dirt or play sports. The matter is the clothes is to protect their skin and to give modesty of their bodies. Fashion is just a desire, but it isn’t the most important priority.

    Any moms who dislike hand me downs: Smile, thank the person, rummage and donate. Doesn’t take much but 1 min to thank them and 5 mins to donate. Bless those good souls for thinking of you and your children. You might not like the items, which is okay. But don’t become snobby. That is why we have a decrease in others helping one another due to the help is not appreciated. If didn’t ask for help, I understand that. But gone are the days a person does something for someone with out wanting something in return….

  • melissa
    July 22, 2011

  • If it’s cute I take it..if I don’t like it I speak up.

    In my opinion I don’t think there is anything wrong with offering. If a mom feels forced to take them well then it’s her fault for not telling me “hey no thanks!”

  • Sara Rummell
    July 22, 2011

  • Heaven FORBID you ever get placed in a position where your income is suddenly cut short and you find yourself not knowing how you will buy clothes in the coming months. At that point, a bag of clothes dropped off to you out of the goodness of someone’s heart is a lifesaver. I can’t imagine giving hand-me-downs to a “friend” and knowing that they’re secretly thinking that my daughters’ clothes are disgusting and repulsive. Do you avoid letting your fragile child sit on your friends’ furniture also? Because most likely their child had peed, puked and pooped on that too.

  • angel
    July 22, 2011

  • I understand completely, but their are people out in the real word that really cannot afford to go shopping in that dream like state. I too like to shop for my children, but find it very hard to buy clothing for 4. It is equally difficult for others. We are in a recession or did you bypass that thought. We do not all have the luxury.

  • NJ
    July 22, 2011

  • I agree with everyone else There is absolutely nothing wrong w/ hand me downs. Everyone I know including myself grew up on them, still use them and they surely save a ton of money. Also, unless your don’t do laundry and your daughter has 365 separate outfits and underwear to match she IS wearing used clothes too.

    Not to mention unless you toss all her clothes in the trash you’re giving charities her once stained clothes too. Wasn’t laundry detergent invented for cleaning clothes?

    I agree with others if you don’t want hand me downs that is your choice, but you can politely say no to people instead of taking their so-called duds you don’t want and being spiteful about it. No one forces you to take them

    And why would a celebrity’s child’s clothing be any better they play and get stained clothes too

  • Niki
    July 22, 2011

  • I freaking hate hand me downs. Hate them.

    I love shopping for and dressing my kids and I don’t want anyone else’s used up clothing. Not to mention – we probably don’t have the same style anyway – so why bother?

    I’m also one of those weird moms that doesn’t like receiving clothing as gifts either. This is going to sound extremely selfish and ungrateful – but clothing as gifts means I have one more errand to run during the week, and that errand is exchanging your gift for something I’d actually put on my children.

    The best gifts for a new mom – offer to babysit so she can get a pedicure. Bring a meal. Or buy something really useful like DIAPERS. But save your ragamuffin clothes. Please.

  • KS
    July 22, 2011

  • I see both sides of the situation. I get some good hand-me-downs, but mostly ones that are not so good. I had a friend who kept giving me clothes and a carseat and a saucer to use, BUT she wanted everything back when I was done with it so she could sell it or donate it. And this friend lives an hour away from me. Her daughter was born in April and mine was born in November, so the sizes and seasons for the clothes just weren’t matching up for me. This just became more of a problem for me to make sure she got her clothes back. I have offered up clothes to other moms and I don’t expect to get them back. I can find clothes pretty cheap at Target, Kohl’s and JCP, and they don’t want them back when I am done….lol!

  • Amber
    July 22, 2011

  • I disagree. I think that hand me downs are a great way to help the environment and save money at the same time. Baby clothes aren’t worn for long before you have to buy new stuff. They’re often in excellent condition with no stains or rips.

    If you’re concerned about microbes, you might want to seal yourself in a bubble. There’s no way to avoid “contamination” in a world full of life. Sorry, but your precious little child will be covered in another person’s poo particles the moment he enters a public restroom. You might want to take a good, close look at biology :)

    In the mean time get off your high horse before you fall off. Good grief.

  • Nas
    August 20, 2011

  • WOW!!! That ‘s about me! I hate hand me downs. My daughter has a friend and her mom gave us 4 bags of old stuff for my girl. I said no- thank you, but she insisted that I take them. Some of the things were nice, but most of them just old rugs with stains and holes. I find it humiliating.. I am not a salvation army. I always give away my stuff to salvation army, but it’s good stuff- I even iron and wash everything. I did not want to offend the person, but it ‘s just doesn’t look right to me.. How can I gracefully say no. I should say that I always buy nice things, but just my hubby is not working right now and maybe she thinks that she is saving us a buck.

  • Melissa Martin
    September 26, 2011

  • It really worries me that young moms are thinking about reusing kids clothes. I know you can save a lot of money but think about the health hazards as well, kids could get allergies and rashes. I agree people need to save money and I think they should do that with books and electronics and not necessarily with clothes. Instead of spending so much money on buying new books for your kids and for yourself we should really get books from small libraries and business owners as they always contribute to the community they are a part of. is one great initiative, they help send kids to school , so parents do not have to think or worry about that any more.