Growing up, I always said I wanted six kids. I dreamed of being a stay at home mom and having a huge family. But then I had my first kid and now I’m not so sure I even want two children. I know lots of moms with multiple kids say they love their children equally and that your love multiplies with subsequent children, but I’d hate to have a second child and have that kid feel like he/she could never have as close of a relationship as I have with my daughter.
At the other end of the spectrum, of course, is Michelle Duggar. A lot of people have come out to criticize her and her husband for choosing to have their 20th child. And rightfully so, if you ask me. I’m not convinced I could show enough love to two kids, so I have my doubts that she could devote enough time and attention to 20 plus her husband.
But that being said, I’m not so sure her decision to have 20 kids makes her a “bad mom.” Yes, it’s a little freakish that someone would opt to deliver a baby, whether vaginally or by C-section, 20 times but it’s her body and by this point she knows what she’s getting herself into. If she wants to 20 kids or even 25 kids and can financially and psychologically carry that burden, should we really look down on her?
I will fully grant you that the Duggars’ situation is initially alarming. It still kind of freaks me out to think she had 20 babies–the stork didn’t deliver them, after all. And the logistics of caring for, feeding, housing 21 people is insane. But can anyone else really say she has too many kids? I mean, how many kids is too many? Is there some sort of biological marker that goes off internally when enough is enough? Or should it be family decision to stop at 2 kids or 3 or 22? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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