Do You Kiss Your Child on the Lips?

Do You Kiss Your Child on the Lips?

Mom Jeanine
June 28, 2011

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I know it’s kind of a weird question, but I’m genuinely curious. Obviously, I do. That’s my little girl and I above sharing a smooch during our recent trip to Florida.

I ask because apparently seeing parents kissing their children on the lips freaks some people out. I will admit, I was one of those people before I had a child. And then I experienced the overwhelming love of being a parent and suddenly all my qualms about mouth to mouth contact with a child dissipated.

My boyfriend, however, is one of those people who thinks it’s totally weird for parents to kiss their children on the lips. His logic is that mouth kissing has romantic connotations and should be reserved for your significant other. There are so many other places to kiss your little one, why the lips?

So where do you stand? Do you kiss your child on the lips or is it a little weird for you, too? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • Lindi
    June 28, 2011

  • Kissing my son on the lips is all about sweetness. My husband does not kiss my son on the lips. I think it is different for men because their bond with the child is different.

  • barbarabaker
    June 28, 2011

  • I absolutely kiss my kids on the lips. Always have and don’t find it inappropiate at all. However, I have an 18 year old son that I only kiss on the cheeks. I don’t feel comfortable kissing him on the lips at all. I guess as they grow older, you tend to lax on that part of “affection”. It fades to a mear kiss on the cheeks when they’re old enough to date.

    I don’t see anything wrong with kissing your child on the lips.

  • Daphne
    June 28, 2011

  • Awww I love kissing my son lips, I love his sweet kisses. However he is only 2 but as he gets a little older I probabably won’t do it at all because I do find kissing older children in the mouth inappropriate.

  • Neena Perez
    June 28, 2011

  • I agree, the pic captured a loving peck from mommy to child. There is an age when it’s no longer appropriate, especially if the child doesn’t like it anymore. Mommy bonds are different, we love our kids with the purest love and the best intentions. Thats a cute pic about love!! why do people have to pervert everything?

  • Heidi helene
    June 28, 2011

  • Absofreakinglutely I kiss my babies on the lips. There may come a time when it becomes weird. My daughter doesn’t like me to pat her bottom anymore and lately she deflects a kiss to the cheek. She’s 11 so I reckon that’s normal. Of course I wouldn’t press the issue. My son is 7 and it’s not an issue with him yet. He even asks for a ten second kiss sometimes. He will hold up his fingers and count it down and hold my cheeks and go Muahhjhhhh! It’s the sweetest kiss ever and I cherish every one because I know soon he will be like my daughter and deflect. Then ill

  • Heidi helene
    June 28, 2011

  • (continued) I’ll have to wait for grandkids for that sweet sugar. Til then I’ll take all the Muahhhhhs I can get!

  • Jessica
    June 28, 2011

  • I absolutely kiss my kids on the lips! My 17 month old even gives the sweetest kiss with his mouth open LOL. I see nothing wrong with it. When they don’t feel comfortable anymore than of course I won’t do it.

  • Erin
    June 28, 2011

  • Absolutely! I love the big sloppy kisses and will take all I can get. I also used to think it was weird but I now understand it is a totally different relationship/situation than with my husband. I also agree though, there is probably an age where I will stop (I am assuming that my daughter will put a halt on it quicker than I will however).

  • Vee
    June 28, 2011

  • I kiss my babies on the lips. I have 3 children and the oldest 14 I do not kiss on the lips. As moms I agree the bond is there and we don’t think of it as a cultural taboo since it is of the most innocent of loves, our babies. But as all things there comes of time where appropriateness coems into play and when that time coems my 5 year and 3 year old will no longer want nor will they be kissed on lips by mommy. until that time I will enjoy they sweet baby kisses anytime they want them.

  • Alicia @MommyDelicious
    June 28, 2011

  • I kiss my 3-year-old son on the lips all. the. time. Why not? He’s just so freakin’ sweet and lovable. It used to freak me out too, but then I became a Mom and all that went out of the window…

  • emnhenrysmom
    June 28, 2011

  • Of course I kiss both my children on the lips! Geez, what is the world coming to? I love the picture above. To me, if your aren’t close to your children and show them affection- who do you show affection to? Now parents are afraid to kiss their children on the lips? Maybe they also won’t hug their kids when they of a certain age? Who cares?? I kiss my kids, my husband and even my 65 year old mother & 72 year father on the lips when we see them! (Granted, we’re not “odd” & no one lingers- haha!) But we are an affectionate family and adore each other. But to each his own. I just think the world could use a few more families showing each other affection & love….

  • jp
    June 28, 2011

  • Oh, for crying out loud! This is nonsense! OF COURSE I kiss my children on the lips!

  • Alysha
    June 28, 2011

  • I’m 22 and still kiss my mom a on the lips! I also love love love my son’s sweet little kisses (on the lips) not weird at all!

  • josy
    June 29, 2011

  • I am pregnant with my first so I don’t have children..but I kiss my nephew on the lips all the time hes 2 and gives the yummiest kissies ever. I don’t think there’s anything weird, of course as he gets older it will become weird but as babies I think its so sweet..and I can’t wait for my baby girl to be born so I can give her kissies too :]

  • Gaelina
    August 16, 2011

  • Can I comment on this website, I don’t have kids, only a doggie. LOL! (And I’m not comparing him to your children… :~))

    I will be 34 years old and I still kiss my mom on the lips! My Dad? No way. He will not go for that! LOL!

  • Stephanie H
    September 12, 2011

  • A peck is no big deal and has no romantic connection in general. Anything beyond that is questionable to me.

    I kiss my daughter on the lips and she kisses her daddy and I as well. For strangers, she will naturally kiss their cheeks, to which the strangers should naturally offer their cheek.

    My daughter will also kiss our thigh as she hugs onto it or shoulder or anything she can hug and give a quick peck. She doesn’t understand anything weird about it as she is showing her love innocently.

    As she gets older out of toddler hood, the kissing can naturally adjust to the cheeks just as I did with my mother. I believe it was around 5 or 6 when I started to do cheeks more then middle school when I just went to hugs only.

  • Kathy
    September 16, 2011

  • We kiss our 5 kids on the lips (ages 9 -8months). I don’t think it’s weird at all.

  • Tammy
    September 16, 2011

  • I have always kissed my 3 boys on the lips. My oldest 11 still does, my middle 8 has recently begun offering his cheek for kisses now, which is fine too. My 17 month old baby loves to kiss on the lips!

  • De
    September 21, 2011

  • I absolutely kiss my 7, 10, and 12 year olds on nthe lips. I imagine that this will change as they get older. In my 40′s and still kiss my mom on the lips.

  • Juliet
    September 22, 2011

  • Those lips were in my belly for 9months and I can kiss the heck out of her lips if i want too! ( my baby hates kisses anywhere lol) and my husbands facial hair gets on her nerves so he tries even harder to kiss her on the lips its cute and funny to see how she reacts, i think if we dont make such a big deal about she wouldnt and neither should anyone else. We are just an affectionate family.

  • Christy
    September 22, 2011

  • I’m a mother. Of course I kiss my kid on the lips. She kisses her Dad on the lips. I kissed both my parents on the lips (still kiss 70yr old mom on the lips). I stopped kissing Dad at around 12 though, he died before I grew up, but I think if he were here, I’d have started giving him a “ByeDad!” kiss on the lips again at the end of visits. He’d be 80, a happy grandfather. If parents can’t kiss their kids on the lips, then the only socially-ok-kissing left is for the dogs, the cats, and the sexual partners. Let’s do more to over-sexualize our child’s lives, why don’t we! Oh no, we can’t let them see kissing as a natural human behavior between close family members, oh no! Not unless there’s a sexual relationship involved! Seriously, what lunacy. We’re human beings, if we don’t express and share love with our closest friends and relatives — or if we can’t do so without sexualizing it — what’s the point.

  • Sandra Fowler
    December 25, 2011

  • I think that the “why on the lips” question can be answered pretty easily. Kissing someone on the lips is a very intimate experience regardless of the relationship – and by “intimate”, I mean close and personal.

    To me, if I break it down and analyze it (which I do, because that’s how I roll), I realize that I kiss my son on the lips (or mouth because he’s 17 months old now and his idea of a kiss is trying to eat my face, not puckering up), I am being as close to him as I can possibly be.

    It’s the same as when I wrap my arms around him and give him one of those all-encompassing hugs instead of a small, impersonal hug. Because it puts me in such close, personal, loving contact with him.

    As a culture, we have two conflicting ideals. Kissing on the lips is (one of) the most personal ways to kiss – therefore, that is how we kiss our children. And, kissing on the lips is done between partners, therefore kissing your children on the lips must be taboo.

    Obviously, it depends on the person and what they feel comfortable with. I, too, was one of those people who was made rather uncomfortable at the idea until I had my son. I didn’t even fall instantly in love with him, I had such severe postnatal depression at first that I almost couldn’t bond with him at all but I kissed him CONSTANTLY…and I think a lot of that was my instinct quietly telling me that kissing is a bonding experience. If you kiss him enough, you’ll fall totally in love with him. I also, somewhere, knew that he needed to feel my love even if I couldn’t.

    Something worked, kissing or meds or whatever, but we’re fine now and my son is a kissing machine. He loves to climb up in mummy’s lap to give her a kiss and a hug.