10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Kid

10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Kid

momfarah
September 13, 2011

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10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Kid
How many of you have said something so awful to your kids that you immediately wished you could take it back?  You know, like when you’re at your wit’s end and blurt out the first thing that comes to mind without thinking how it could make your child feel?  What sorts of things am I talking about?  How about starting with these 10 things you should never say to your kid.

1. I wish I never had you. Yes, there are times when you might wish for those easy, pre-kid days, but there’s no need to say it out loud.  Imagine how you would feel if your kid told you he wished for another mom.  Ouch, right?

2. Why can’t you be more like [enter name here]? I’m guilty of this one, and it’s so easy to do.  I have to remind myself every day that my kids are completely different and that they’re going to do things their own way.

3. Shut up. This one makes me cringe.  There are gentler, more polite ways to tell your kid to be quiet.

4. You’re so stupid. This one needs no explanation.  If it does, then maybe you’re stupid.  Not very nice, is it?

5. I give up. You don’t give up on your kids.  Period.  But if it’s your kid’s homework that’s giving you a problem, that’s another thing, although you can always Google it.


6. I hate you, too. Just because your kid says it first, doesn’t make it OK for you to say it back.

7. Just go away. There will come a point in time when you’re begging your kids to hang out with you.  Why push them away now?  So if you need a few minutes, how about asking them politely to come back when you’re ready.

8. You’re fat or ugly. With all the eating disorders we’re seeing with kids at a younger age, we should be instilling in our kids a positive self-image, not a negative one.

9. I don’t care. What’s important to your kid might not be as important to you, but you can fake it.

10. Your turn. Add your two cents in the comments below.


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  • Alicia @MommyDelicious
    September 14, 2011

  • Oh dear… these are horrible things to say to anyone, let alone a child, your OWN child. I hope and pray that i never get THAT frustrated that I resort to saying these things…

  • Julie
    September 14, 2011

  • Overheard at the supermarket: “You’re not pretty enough to get away with that.”

    Really?

  • Lizzy
    September 15, 2011

  • Great list!
    Great advice!
    Thanks!

  • Haeraee
    September 20, 2011

  • “are you retarded?” my mom still says this to me and all grown up it still hurts, I promised myself a long time ago to never let my daughter feel that way

  • Alice
    September 21, 2011

  • My mother (not my father) has said each one of those things to me and more. If there is a mom out there reading this who thinks “oh my child won’t remember that” or that I’m “too sensitive,” let me assure you that 30 years of hearing this type of language adds up. I am in the phase of my life where I am planning on having my own child(ren) in the next few years with my husband, and I will not be trusting my own mother to care for him/her/them in any way if possible. It’s not revenge, but I cannot responsibly drag another child through what I was dragged through and still remember everyday of my life.

  • Juliet
    September 22, 2011

  • umm im 26 and my mom still tells me about half of those things! I have taken the best from my mom and definitley leaving the worst from her when it comes to raising my little princess.

  • Matt
    September 23, 2011

  • Heard this while in line for a disney ride, ‘if you don’t quit it, i’m gonna slap you to another dimension!’ I kid you not!!

  • dawn
    September 27, 2011

  • i used to threaten my daughter with a smacking all over her body if she didn’t behave.AND i followed through everytime.i’d pick her up and KISS HER EVERYWHERE.she would then behave.hitting wouldn’t work,but this did everytime.and i still tell her this when she’s giving me grief.it still works,even at 17 year of age.i have been threaten with and recieved beating and promised myself i would treat my children differantly.

  • eddie
    October 8, 2011

  • If I say anything like this, I apoligize immediately. I’ve done a Donald Duck (loss my temper, as most parents do). It happens but the difference is to be better the next time and for the parent to learn to get out of these terrible behaviors/not repeat them.

    It’s hard to do but so worth it. It’s esp. hard if that’s how you were raised but you can change this. Now, if I need to punish someone they either get toys removed or have to sit on steps away from the group for 10 min. It works because nobody wants to be alone and not have pokemon cards. ;) And the same goes for positive reinforcement…catching them being good. Do the same for your self as well…it will change your whole perspective of relationships not just w/ your child but everyone.

  • Anon
    November 15, 2011

  • …My mom’s said all of these things to me. This just makes me feel…sad. Upset. Yeah…good job, mom. Thanks.

  • Olivia
    November 20, 2011

  • How about your drunk dad screaming “No boy will ever love you!” at you? Yeah… my dad taught me what NOT to say to your kid alright…..

  • Amy
    November 27, 2011

  • Ugh.. what about “I wish you didn’t exist” or “You should dress more like a girl. You look like a stupid boy!” i heard oth of these at the mall!

  • Lex
    January 6, 2012

  • “You’ll never be good enough for that”

  • Lily
    May 3, 2012

  • How about….

    “I’m leaving the house and I’m not coming back.”
    “You’re just overly tired and it’s making you upset.”
    “You’re making it worse than it really is.”
    “Get away from me, I don’t want to see your face.”
    “You do nothing.”
    “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”
    “I don’t care about what you think.”

    I’ve had all of those ones thrown at me. Love you too, mom!