I Got My Daughter’s Ears Pierced–What’s the Big Deal?

I Got My Daughter’s Ears Pierced–What’s the Big Deal?

Mom Jeanine
June 14, 2010


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This weekend while shopping for a new pair of earrings for my daughter, I was amazed by how strongly some women feel about children with pierced ears. Ironically, the woman who was supposed to be selling me the earrings was the one giving me the most flack about having pierced my daughter’s ears. “If I had a daughter, I would never mutilate her body by piercing her ears,” the saleswoman said. “That should be something she decides for herself.”

When I first had my daughter, I thought the same thing–save for the mutilation part. Ear piercing is really not that serious, in my opinion. But when she turned 6 months, I changed my mind and decided to get them pierced. My reasoning was that she wouldn’t remember the sting–okay, the downright pain–of getting her ears pierced. As expected, she cried for about three minutes right after they pierced her ears, and then it was over. She never fussed with them and didn’t give me any trouble when it came time to clean them. If given the choice to go back and redo things, would I do anything differently? No, I don’t regret getting her ears pierced when she was so young.

Now, don’t get me wrong–I understand why some moms choose not to get their infant daughter’s ears pierced. But I think it’s personal choice. I don’t judge you for not getting your daughter’s ear pierced, so please don’t judge me. If she doesn’t want her ears pierced when she’s older, she can take the darn things out and let the holes close.

But I’m wondering, is it really that controversial? What’s the big deal about getting your little girl’s ears pierced? No one gave my mother or her friends hell 30 years ago for piercing their children’s ears, so when–and why–did this become such a big freaking deal?

If you’re like me and chose to pierce your daughter’s ears, avoid those judging stares at the jewelry shop by buying your little girl some earrings online. Here are the ones I bought for my daughter:

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  • Deanna Hernandez-Arza
    June 14, 2010

  • I totally agree with you…I am latina and my ear piecing was done by my pediatrician. It is still done by a few doctors still and choice to get my daughter ear piecing done at 4 months.

  • Robin
    June 14, 2010

  • I’m sorry. You took HER body and ALTERED it. What you did was wrong because it’s her body, not yours. You have no right to do so. What if she doesn’t want them when she gets older? Mine were pierced when I was 6 months and they haven’t closed despite me not wearing earrings for DECADES. Mine have also grown lopsided, so even if I want to wear them, they look silly because one is higher than the other.

  • Rachel
    June 14, 2010

  • Wait, weren’t you just judging parents who use leashes last week? So that’s ok, but judging for piercing ears isn’t? I don’t care about either issue but I just find it amusing. Judge not, lest ye be judged!

  • Lyn
    June 17, 2010

  • I know that there are a lot of cultures where ear piercing is done very early. However, I put that in the same category of “needing to show the world that this child is a girl” – much like dressing her in frilly clothing. I got a lot of flak from my Latino in-laws and their friends when my “poor baby” was 8 months and wearing blue in addition to not having her ears pierced.

    I don’t consider it mutilation, but my opinion is that girls (or boys) should be old enough to ask, understand the consequences, and take care of it on their own. Recognize that ear piercing at all is totally cultural (why is it OK to pierce lobes but not cartilage? Ears, but not noses?)

    On the aesthetic side, I have seen lots of little girls with pierced ears that looked even that grew to be not so even as their bodies grew.

  • Shanna
    June 17, 2010

  • I would not judge someone who does it. BUT, I would NOT pierce my daughters ears.
    I guess the main question would be…. WHAT FOR ?
    And there is only one answer. To make your daughter look “cuter” and whatnot.
    That’s just ridiculous in my opinion. There’s no logical reason on piercing a BABY’S EARS other then to make them look “CUTE”.
    Pure stupidity. But it’s their daughter’s, not mine!

  • Sarah
    June 17, 2010

  • Jeanine, don’t listen to other people. YOU are the mother. Nobody else. If you are confident in your decision, then stick to your guns.

    I don’t think some of the other rude comments here were called for. Open discussions is fine, but I hate it when people get so disrespectful because they are online and don’t have to “face up” to their comments.

    The reason I didn’t get my daughter’s ears pierced was because I was concerned that she wouldn’t hold still and they would end up crooked and not looking right when she got older. Whenever my daughter decides she wants her ears pierced, I will take her to get it done. My mom let me pierce my ears when I was 7 and I’ve been happily wearing earrings every since.

    I think it would be a VERY RARE occasion where a child would grow up and be mad at their mom for piercing their ears as a child, unless they have some weird, hidden resentment about a multitude of other things as well…

  • Anna D
    June 18, 2010

  • I think the whole “judge not, lest ye be judged” thing is always used out of context. The “judgement” was in reference to eternal salvation, not every day decisions and actions that others do.
    As long as the piercing was done by a licensed professional and dialog about the risks took place between you and your pediatrician, then go for it.

  • Julie
    June 29, 2010

  • I think it is a decision everyone needs to make for themselves. That includes my daughter. I want her to decide if and when she wants her ears pierced. I will not make that decision for her. She’s just a baby so she doesn’t know what she’s missing out on. And the pain isn’t so bad that she’ll remember it later either. But that’s just my opinion. You’re definitely entitled to yours.

  • Laura
    February 21, 2011

  • I’m glad to see there are people out there willing to torment their daughters for pure aesthetics. This makes me sick.